Thursday, May 21, 2015
For the sake of their kids, divorced parents often find a way to put aside their personal feelings to give much needed love and support to their young ones. Co-parenting works in most cases, but there are times when it fails and it puts the children’s well-being more at risk as heated arguments between the exes occur more often. Co-parenting doesn’t usually work when one parent refuses to cooperate and seeks to take matters into his or her own hands. Sadly, this is one of the most common single parent problems that divorcees face. To effectively cope, you must know how to deal with your high conflict ex.
Tuesday, May 19, 2015
Parents who divorce are under a lot of stress and emotional turmoil, but it could just be as devastating for their kids. Perhaps you have that nagging thought at the back of your mind that your messy divorce will have a negative effect on your children—and those suspicions could be true. According to an article on the Scientific American, high levels of parental conflict during and after divorce result in poorer adjustment in children. Therefore, dealing with exes positively after the divorce will likewise have a positive effect on children. With the right co-parenting approach, you won’t have to put your children in the middle of the conflict.
Sunday, May 17, 2015
Around 1300 stepfamilies are formed in the U.S. every day, according to The Stepfamily Foundation. These new stepfamilies consist of either remarried or recoupled parents. While the statistics seems promising given the number of broken families finding new hope, the truth is that the transition involves going through several obstacles. The Unique Obstacles of a Stepfamily Unlike a first-time family, a stepfamily faces more complicated challenges. Because both parents and children cannot quickly cope with the changes after the blend, their relationship with each other won’t change for a certain period until the transition phase is over. This means that the children will only be comfortable discussing life issues with their biological parents and vice versa. As the gap remains unbridged, situations can become frustrating, leading to conflicts between family members in the long run.
Friday, May 15, 2015
“I hate you and your stupid rules. I’m going to live with dad/mom!” These are the words that strike deep like a dagger into every single parent’s heart, especially when you know you’ve gone to great lengths to provide the best for your child. A flat out NO doesn’t usually work (unless you prove that your ex is unfit), so what should you do when your child takes on this behavior? To those seeking single parent families help, here are some advice from the experts. Don’t take what you child says at face value. Some kids have mastered the art of pushing the right button whenever a rule is being enforced. They use the threat of changing homes to make you back down. Others may genuinely be curious about life on the other side but feel guilty about such thoughts.
Wednesday, May 13, 2015
When it comes to family life, blog writer Lee Rose Emery has likely seen it all. She grew up in what most people would call a “traditional” family where people are primarily related by blood; while her husband grew up in a “blended” family, or one that includes step relatives, like step-siblings, stepparents, and others. As a mother herself, Emery recognizes the difficulties of parenting in a traditional family like her own. This has led her to wonder about the kind of challenges that scores of stepparents all over the world experience, including how they forge meaningful relationships within their families, most notably their stepchildren.
The impact of divorce is partly dependent on the number of people involved. While it takes only two to divorce, others who also have a stake in your union may also be affected. Foremost among these “others” are your children. How does one properly break the news of divorce to the children? Marriage and family experts will agree that there's no single answer to this. First of all, the reactions could differ according to the children's age. Psychologists say that a child aged 6 to 11 may blame one parent, while kids aged 3 to 6 might blame themselves. While it may be impossible to spare children of the pain of the divorce, breaking the news to them the right way can help make the situation less difficult for all.
Saturday, May 9, 2015
Many experts say that one of the primary differences between men and women in relationships is that women talk and men do. I believe this is true for most. When a woman is struggling or dealing with one of the many high conflict exes in Houston, she wants to talk. When a man is struggling, he needs to do. Our brains are simply hardwired differently. Understanding this difference is a key to happiness in our relationships with our children. I've learned from many dads that I have worked with that divorced fathers and remarried fathers may sometimes struggle with the talking concept, something that may also be considered as among the most common single parent problems. They feel limited by their time, influence and role in their children's lives, and want to say powerful things to their children but sometimes, don't know how.
Friday, May 8, 2015
The greatest attributes about women make it hard for them in families, particularly in new Houston stepfamilies. The way we think about our role as the stepmother and family member can greatly affect our happiness and satisfaction with our life. Being aware of them can make all the difference – no matter what kind of family you are in. Shift your thinking on these ideas, and make your life better. Women are raised in our society to be the center of the family. And the struggle of the stepmother begins. To most women, this means taking her rightful place as the creator of a loving home and beautiful family, and partnering with her husband to make the home run smoothly.