Monday, August 31, 2015
There are times when, no matter how hard you try to keep things peaceful, your ex just seems to be doing everything to make you feel miserable. It can come in many different ways: he/she could accuse you of not doing your parenting job properly, throw your faults back at you, or even repeatedly intrude in your personal affairs. With high conflict exes continuously pushing your buttons, your life can become downright stressful. It is important to remember that your ex is probably trying to hold on to the past to avoid having to deal with the present. That doesn’t mean, however, that you should let yourself be drawn to this direction as well. Here are some pointers to consider when confronted with a high-conflict ex.
Friday, August 28, 2015
Some people say that when you marry someone, you also marry his/her family. What happens, however, if you and your partner decide to separate? Does it also mean that you’re also “divorcing” your ex’s family? Is it a good idea to keep in touch with your ex-family? Dealing with exes alone is difficult enough, but when you add the parents and siblings into the picture, things could get confusing and stressful at every turn, so here are a few things to keep in mind: Past Relationship How was your past relationship with your ex in-laws? If you had a great relationship with them then, perhaps, you shouldn’t let your divorce ruin the friendship.
Thursday, August 27, 2015
Even if having a step mom or dad is fairly common, and it has become nearly prevalent for people to have stepfamilies, it can be quite difficult to navigate these waters in the beginning, and it would largely help that the new spouse and the new family learn to help each other integrate more smoothly and gently into each other’s lives. Stepparents often have to deal with existing conflicts with their exes, as well as legal wrangling over child custody and support. Any new major change in life situations need adjustments, and managing these new situations with a stepfamily can be very stressful.
For some single parents, it takes time to be ready to start dating again. Many of them simply have too much on their plate that they can’t find the time to do so. They feel that before they even invite someone into their lives again, lingering issues will have to be resolved first, especially the ones with their ex-spouse, and the complicated and stressful details of alimony, child support, and custody. Resolving Old Conflicts You may have gone through a difficult divorce, or you may have been widowed. You may have an ex that has lately been making it hard for you to move on, and start life anew. The stresses in your life can add up that it is easy to feel frustrated and frightened.
Sunday, August 2, 2015
Coping with the drama and all the emotional trauma and stress after parting ways with your former spouse is hard enough, now you’ll also have to deal with raising your child on your own. While this colossal task is a rewarding one in the end, the road can be filled with bumps and obstacles to the point that you may even doubt yourself. Though you might face these common single parent problems along the way, you can emerge triumphant over these obstacles once you have the support of the people around you.
Friday, July 31, 2015
Calling quits on your marriage and filing for divorce may have been a mutual decision, but it might still be hard to accept seeing your ex find a new significant other. For some, this is particularly painful since they might still harbor some feelings for their exes. Others, meanwhile, see their ex’s new significant other as a threat to their role as a parent. Whatever the case, you might feel some resentment towards your ex’s new relationship, which shouldn’t be the case if you wish to remain having a cordial relationship for the sake of your children. There are a lot of questions asked by people facing the same situation, and properly dealing with exes with a new boyfriend or girlfriend can be done through these steps.
Wednesday, July 29, 2015
Newly-formed Houston stepfamilies often take the optimistic route, thinking that it’s going to be smooth-sailing once they all move in together. However, it’s not like the Brady Bunch where issues are resolved at the end of the episode. That’s why you’ll want the help of a support group like The Bridge Across to help you when you’re starting out. It will take a lot of hard work until you can proudly say that your family has become a harmonious unit. The main problem is that there are several stepparent issues that you can inadvertently step into if you are ignorant of them. These can cause damage to the new family’s dynamics, making it difficult for you to make the connection successfully.